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A Bride’s Guide to Tipping Wedding Vendors

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

When planning your wedding, you may wonder how much of your budget to put aside for gratuities and tips. You may not be sure who gets tipped or how much is customary to tip. Be sure to read all contracts that you sign with your vendors to make sure that you are aware if tipping is optional (at your discretion) or contractual. Some vendor contracts will automatically add a certain percentage to your bill to cover the customary standard gratuity.

Here is a breakdown of who you should tip and how much you should tip. Note these are only standard guidelines, you may choose to add more for exceptional service. You should prepare envelopes with the proper amounts already in them, addressed to the proper vendors.

Rehearsal Dinner – 20 percent of the total bill, many restaurants will add this onto the bill on larger parties.

Hairstylist / Make Up Artist / Nail Technician – It is customary to tip 15 to 20 percent of the total cost and should be paid once services are completed.

Musicians for the Ceremony – Standard tipping is $20 to $25 dollars per musician and is expected at the end of the ceremony. The father of the bride or the best man presents the envelope to the musicians.

Officiant for the Ceremony – Customary of $100 and up, or make a donation to the church or synagogue in which you are getting married. This contribution can be in addition to or in lieu of a tip. If tipping, have the father of the bride or the best man hand the envelope to the officiant right after the rehearsal or the ceremony.

Delivery Truck Drivers / Reception Set Up – This could include the cake delivery and set up, the floral set up, decoration set up, tent set up, etc… if the set up staff who is setting up is not a part of the reception staff. It is customary to tip $5 to $25 dollars per person depending on the difficulty of the set up. The person accepting the delivery should hand out the tips. If you will not be there during delivery or set up, you should tip either before or after, to the appropriate vendor.

Reception Staff - normally is eighteen to twenty percent of the final reception bill. This amount of tipping may seem like a lot to pay, but remember this is divided among all the staff who worked your event. It is usually paid when the balance of your reception bill is paid and is normally included in your contract. You may choose to give added gratuity for exceptional service on the day of your event after the reception.

Reception Musicians or DJs – Customary to tip 5 to 20 percent of the total cost. The father of the bride or the best man presents the envelope to the musicians at the end of the ceremony. You would tip a band 5 percent per musician (20 percent total for 5 musicians) and a DJ up to 20 percent of the total cost.

Reception Hall Maitre d’ – $40 or more for each of these staff members, depending on the amount of guests and total reception bill. The father of the bride or the best man presents the envelope to the Maitre d’.

Reception Bartenders – In addition to the amount specified in the contract, 10% of the total bar bill should be tipped to the bartenders. Have the cash in envelopes in advance and have maitre d’ pass along the tip.

Powder Room / Coat Check / Parking Attendants – Should receive .50 cents to $1 per guest attending. Have the cash in envelopes in advance and have maitre d’ pass along the tip.

Transportation – It is customary to tip 20% of the total cost. Many limousine companies can offer you to pay in advance or to tip on the day the service is completed. Have the best man in charge of turning over the cash tip you prepared in advance.

Finally, the following vendors do not typically receive gratuities but you may certainly add them to the list if their service is outstanding: photographer, videographer, caterer, baker, jeweler, wedding consultant, seamstress, and florist.

Erica Tevis is the owner of Little Things Wedding Favors. Visit them on the web and check out their large supply of wedding favors, themed favors, invitations, and wedding accessories.

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15 Ideas for Mother-Son Dances

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

Think of traditional wedding dances and what comes to mind? First dance…father-daughter dance..what else? How about the mother-son dance?

Here my ‘kick at the can’ for 15 popular slecetions for mother-son songs:

1. Billy Joel – She’s Got A Way
2. James Taylor – How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You)
3. John Lennon – Woman
4. Nat King Cole – L-O-V-E
5. Andre Bocelli & Celine Dion – The Prayer
6. The Beatles – In My Life
7. Ben E King – Stand By Me
8. Celine Dion – Because You Loved Me
9. Jann Arden – Good Mother
10. Jerry Vaille – Mama (Italian)
11. Kenny Rogers – Through The Years
12. Elton John – Can You Feel The Love
13. Rod Stewart – Have I Told You Lately
14. Josh Grobin – You Raise Me Up
15. Enrique Eglasias – Hero

Thank You Cards…

Friday, October 2nd, 2009

Viewed as a chore, a challenge, or possibly both, all wedding couples face the same daunting task of putting a pen to paper and writing out their thank you notes or cards. However, there are simple ways to make this essential after wedding task a breeze.

The key to thank you note writing is good organization and planning. Before you even being to open your gifts, make a list of all the people who you invited, including those who didn’t attend as they may still send a gift. Next to their name, make a column for their address, another column to check off if they attended the wedding, and a final column for you to jot down notes including what gift they gave to you. Keep this list handy, whether it is in an organization book or in your address book, you will need it to write out your thank you notes. This task is essential to ensure the right gift giver is thanked for the right gift.

Couples usually handle the opening of their wedding gifts in either one of two ways: either they open them the minute they arrive, or they wait until after the wedding and open the stack all at once. No matter which method you decide to open your gifts, use the list you made to check off who sent a gift and what the gift was. If it is something unique, make sure you jot it down on your list, this way it will refresh your memory when you actually write out your thank you notes. If two guests sent you a similar gift, but one was engraved, make not of that so you can mention that in your note. If writing down everything is too time consuming between gift opening, ask one of your wedding party attendants (who has legible handwriting) to help you.

When writing your thank you notes, not only thank them for the gift, but also thank them for attending your ceremony and being a part of your special day. If the gift giver travelled or had a special role in your ceremony, make sure you mention your gratitude first before thanking them for their gift. When writing your thank you notes, add a personal touch to them, specifically mentioning the gift they gave you and how you plan on using it. For example, “The crystal vase you gave us is beautiful and adds a wonderful sparkle to our dining room”, which is much more personal than, “Thank you for your thoughtful gift”. This personal touch will be noticed by your gift giving guests.

Timeliness is just as important as the note itself. Wedding thank you notes should be sent out no later than four weeks after the wedding. However, it is impossible to do so because many photographers can take months before your wedding photography is ready. In this case, make sure you mention the reason for the tardiness of your thank you note so people do not think the delay was due to tardiness or laziness.

The proper etiquette for thank you notes is a handwritten note. It may be time consuming task, but it is one that is very necessary. Your thank you note acknowledges both the person and the thought behind their gift.

Erica Tevis is the owner of Little Things Favors Little Things Wedding Favors. Visit them on the web and check out their large supply of wedding favors, themed favors, invitations, and wedding accessories.

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Music to Cut Cake By…

Sunday, September 27th, 2009

Cake cutting music? How ’bout these?!

1. Open Window – Sarah Harmer
2. When I’m 64 – The Beatles
3. Ice Cream – Sarah McLachlan
4. Sugar Sugar – The Archies
5. Love and Marriage – Frank Sinatra
6. Build Me Up Buttercup – The Foundations
7. The Sweetest Thing – U2
8. How Sweet It Is – James Taylor
9. I Got You Babe – Sonny & Cher
10. You Make Me So Very Happy – Blood Sweat & Tears

Wedding Tradition – Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue

Sunday, September 27th, 2009

You have probably heard the popular wedding tradition saying before, but not every bride to be knows exactly where it originated from or what the meaning behind the saying is. It is a darling saying and is one of the only wedding traditions in today’s society which makes some sense. It is a cute tradition – one which is performed to bring good luck to the newlywed couple.

The traditional saying is:
Something old, something new
Something borrowed, something blue
And a silver sixpence in her shoe.


A sixpence is a coin that was minted in Britain from 1551 to 1967. It was made of silver and worth six pennies. This wedding tradition can be traced back to England, and many sources say that it began sometime in the Victorian Era. Each item in this sort poem represents a good luck token for the bride – if she carries them, it is said her marriage will have good fortune.

Something Old: The old item has several different meanings, but one general theme: a link of continuity from the bride’s past. Some say this is a desire to remain connected with your family even after you established a family of your own. Other sources say it represents the life you are leaving behind. Another idea is that the tradition of family values and the connection family brings is being passed down to you. It is safe to say that all of these assumptions are correct; the bride is leaving behind her past to start a new beginning, but not to forget where she has been. Things you can use for the something old theme are: jewelry from your mother, grandmother or great-grandmother, an old wedding photo from your family, a love letter from your father to your mother, a picture of your parents in your purse, an old handkerchief, a childhood pillow to hold your rings, a piece of lace sewn into the hem of your gown.

Something New: means optimism and hope for the future. It conveys the message that you and your husband are creating a new union that will endure the test of time. Many brides choose to use their wedding gown, flowers or rings to symbolize the “something new” in this tradition.

Something Borrowed: Again, there are several meanings behind borrowing an item from a friend or relative. Some sources say borrowing something is borrowing happiness from a happily married woman, so that their happiness will carry over to the new bride. Other sources have said it is symbolizes the love and adoration you have for the person from whom you have borrowed the item from. If you borrow an item from your happily married grandmother or mother, you can fulfill both of these meanings. Doing this lets your parents (or grandparents) know that you admire their marriage and the respect they have for each other and that you hope to have an equally happy marriage. The borrowed item also signifies to the bride that she can always count on her friends and family for support. Items that can be used for the something borrowed theme could be: family jewelry, a prayer book from your mother or grandmother, strands of pearls, or your parent’s cake cutting set.

Something Blue: The color blue has been connected to weddings for centuries as a symbol of love, modesty, fidelity, good luck, purity and loyalty. Many brides incorporate this color into their clothing, by either wearing a blue stoned jewelry item or wearing a blue garter. However for a modern spin, you could use blue toe nail polish, blue eye shadow, a blue ribbon tied into your flowers, blue underwear, even wear light blue shoes! The possibilities are endless and limited only by your imagination.

A Lucky Sixpence: A sixpence in the bride’s shoe represents wealth and financial security. For optimum fortune, the sixpence should be worn in the left shoe. This tradition may date back to the Scottish tradition of the groom placing a silver coin in his shoe for good luck. Many companies sell keepsake sixpence pieces for weddings.

Brides have been honoring the something old, new borrowed, blue tradition for centuries. Although these items are supposed to bring good luck to the bride, many brides are following this tradition to honor people close to them on their wedding day.

Erica Tevis is the owner of Little Things Favors Little Things Wedding Favors. Visit them on the web and check out their large supply of wedding favors, themed favors, invitations, and wedding accessories.

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How to Establish Your Wedding Budget

Monday, August 10th, 2009

No one likes budget talk. The fun of planning a wedding seems to evapourate pretty quickly when money talk rears its ugly head. But when it comes to a wedding, you have to know the dollars and cents of your planning.

One of the questions I get asked time and time again is “Am I spending too much?”. The answer really depends. Depends on what your overall budget is, what is important to you, how many guests you’re having, etc.

But there are those couples who are ‘foodies’ and MUST have great food at the reception. Or those who are passionate about music, for who a DJ won’t do. Those couple know that they are willing to devote a large chunk of their budget to getting the perfect details to suit their passions.

But many couples feel that yes, the food and music must be good but aren’t sure where to start in the budgeting process. For them, I would recommend the following breakdown by percent of their wedding budget:
Reception (45%)
Planner (12%)
Bride’s Attire (5%)
Photography (5%)
Flowers/Decor (5%)
Entertainment (5%)
Videographer (3%)
Transportation (3%)
Stationary/Invites (3%)
Wedding Rings (3%)
Wedding Gifts (3%)
Ceremony (2%)
Cake (1%)
Hair & Make-up (1%)
Groom’s Attire (1%)
Accessories (1%)
Accommodations (1%)
Miscellaneous (1%)

So for a wedding with a total budget of $25,000 it would look like this:
Reception (45%) – $11,250
Planner (12%) – $ 3,000
Bride’s Attire (5%) – $ 1,250
Photography (5%) – $ 1,250
Flowers/Decor (5%) – $ 1,250
Entertainment (5%) – $ 1,250
Videographer (3%) – $ 750
Transportation (3%) – $ 750
Stationary/Invites (3%) – $ 750
Wedding Rings (3%) – $ 750
Wedding Gifts (3%) – $ 750
Ceremony (2%) – $ 500
Cake (1%) – $ 250
Hair & Make-up (1%) – $ 250
Groom’s Attire (1%) – $ 250
Accessories (1%) – $ 250
Accommodations (1%) – $ 250
Miscellaneous (1%) – $ 250

And if the list above has things that you aren’t including, like a videographer, remove that line item and either add it to another category or put it back in the bank!



Hope this helps!

jennifer How to Establish Your Wedding Budget

Part Seven – Seven Things to Cut From Your Wedding & Save Your Budget

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Here is the last of seven tips of what to cut from your wedding budget that is unnecessary:

7. Saving The Top Layer of Your Wedding Cake for X… – The top layer of they wedding cake has traditionally been saved and not served to your guests. ‘Saved for what?’ you ask – well, it depends who you ask but its usually stuck in the freezer for at least a year. Often saved for your first wedding anniversary, or birth of your first baby, or their baptism. This tradition started a long time ago when cakes were make from fruit cake and had a glimmer of possibly, maybe surviving the long year.

Nowadays, not many people would not even consider fruit cake and often, the year old cake, certainly stale and likely freezer-burned taste pretty gross. So why do it? Why pay for that top layer so you can wrap it up, seal it in 3 ziplock freezer bags and a tupperware container only to throw it out in a year? Heres a better idea. Save the money and when the occasion comes around (first anniversary, first baby’s birth, etc.) make a special trip back to you baker and get a small replica make of your cake that you can enjoy while still fresh?

Hope these tips help! Happy planning!

jennifer Part Seven   Seven Things to Cut From Your Wedding & Save Your Budget

‘I Do’ – Carrie Bradshaw, Sex in the City

Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

His ‘hello’ was the end of her endings.

Her laugh was their first step down the aisle.

His hand would be hers to hold forever.

His forever was as simple as her smile.

He said she was what was missing.

She said instantly she knew.

She was a question to be answered.

And his answer was “I do”.


Sarah Jessica Parker, as Carrie Bradshaw, in Episode 19 of “Sex and the City,” “The Chicken Dance.”

Part Six – Seven Things to Cut From Your Wedding & Save Your Budget

Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

Here is the sixth part of the series of budget tips of things to cut from you wedding that no one will notice.

6. Bathroom Guest Baskets – this is something I never really understood.  I mean it’s a nice sentiment, but having a basket with mouthwash, extra nylons, tums, a sewing kit is a nice to have, not a need to have.  And can be pretty expensive.   And besides, if you have a good wedding planner worth his or her salt, that all that kind of stuff will already be on hand in his or her on-site emergency kit.

Happy planning!

jennifer Part Six   Seven Things to Cut From Your Wedding & Save Your Budget

Wedding Wishes Released into the Sky

Thursday, July 2nd, 2009

Here is an awesome way to end your wedding or special event. Wish Lanterns

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Also known as khoom fay, sky lanterns, glo lanterns, chinese lanterns or thai lanterns.  How pretty would it be at the end of the night, just before you and your new spouse leave to have all the guests come outside, whisper their wedding wishes inside the lanterns, light them and release them into the dark night’s sky?

These wish lanterns are so pretty and actually look quite large. I’m ordering a sample to see for myself. The have a wick that is lit and then it floats up, up and away into the air like little hot air balloons. The wick burns for about 12-15 minutes, at which point, they will fall back down to the earth. According to their website, they are 100% biodegradable.

wish lantern 11 Wedding Wishes Released into the Sky

The company that sells them, Wishlanterns.com is from Texas and does ship to Canada. Of course, there would be the currency exchange, customs and shipping costs…but they are so pretty! It almost seems a shame to let them float away!

I’ll bet these would look even more amazing in the winter here in Canada. The cold weather would make the lanterns fly even higher.

I’ll let you know once I get one…

Happy planning!

jennifer Wedding Wishes Released into the Sky